This is the one of the ideal states of yogi.
Not to judge as good or bad, and to accept and love with no reasons.
Is it possible?
Since we were born, we have “judged” too much. It is said that we get the ability to distinguish between pleasure and displeasure, and they differentiate to “joy”, “sadness”, “anger”…
So, should we decrease these kind of judgements?
Ideally, yes, maybe.
However, we cannot “do” it. As you make efforts to do so, you will be annoyed.
We have nowhere to find “ideal state”!
Heart of yoga, which I have learnt, is said to have “non-dual philosophy”.
J.Brown, a senior teacher, usually says,
Dualistic yoga practice makes us painful.
In other word, if we set “ideal state” somewhere else, we have pain by the gap between the ideal and what we are now.
Therefore, if we seek “unconditional love” as an ideal state, we must realize that in reality we emotionally judge everything around us and have a guilty to yourself which do so.
When you face something you dislike, you feel pain by itself and simultaneously feel pain by how much you judge. Double pain!
For human beings, it is normal to dislike something as a natural feeling. (If you are a saint, don’t you?)
When you pretend to have “unconditional love” and to be stabled even if you suffer internally, you are not honest to yourself. It is a violence to yourself.
Love is not equal to “kindness”!
One day, I honestly told one guy that I have felt dislike for his behavior.
This is a normal thing, but I was about to forget to do so.
Maybe I misunderstood “love”. The word “love” usually implies kindness, but not necessarily.
Love is sometimes severe.
Even if we seek to be like a saint, we can only live as we are.
We have to be honest enough to face this inevitable fact. If you feel dislike by someone, tell your feeling frankly.
It may be the best way to tell “love” him or her.
By doing it, we could be more comfortable each other.
The state of “unconditional love” is impossible to seek by artificial effort.
If you hope so, there may be only one way.To be as you are.